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Husband Hunters and Trappers

By: Carole Lieberman, M.D.

What’s the difference between a “Husband Hunter and Trapper” and a woman who would simply like to get married some day?
A Husband Hunter and Trapper is one of the 12 types of bad girls – or Dozen Dangerous Damsels – that I have defined in my book.

Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets.

So, first we need to understand what makes a bad girl.

A bad girl is a woman who has given up on finding love because she has come to believe that she is not lovable. This starts with a dysfunctional relationship with her father when she is growing up. For example, he may have been abusive, neglectful, a workaholic or merely divorced from her mom. This little girl then goes on to date bad boys who treat her badly and further convince her that she is not lovable. At some point, she takes her heart off her sleeve, hardens it, and begins to see each man as someone to exploit.

Since a Husband Hunter and Trapper doesn’t feel lovable for herself, she feels as though she needs to trick or trap a man into marrying her before he sees her flaws and runs away. As I wrote in my book, Bad Girls, each of these women wants “to fulfill the fantasy she has been taught since she was a little girl – that the only way she can live happily ever after is if she finds a prince who will marry her and walk with her, holding hands into the sunset. The Husband Hunter and Trapper doesn’t just wait for nature to take its course or for Cupid to sling his arrow. She takes matters into her own hands because deep down she suspects that it won’t happen on its own since she’s not a beautiful princess.”

Some examples of Husband Hunters and Trappers include:
  • Charlotte York who proposed to Dr. Trey MacDougal on “Sex and the City.”
  • Another example is "Octomom". Whereas a typical Husband Hunter may have one baby to try to hook her man, Nadya Suleman has taken husband trapping to another level by having 14 of them in order to trap her elusive sperm donor into marrying her.
  • There are a few who would say that Kate Middleton was a Husband Hunter and Trapper, but I prefer to see her as the quintessential good girl who used bad girl secrets to catch her prince. And you can, too.

For more about Husband Hunters and Trappers and the rest of the Dozen Dangerous Damsels, please visit my website:

Carole Lieberman, M.D.
Psychiatrist and Bestselling Author      


Tips on how to get the perfect man said...

I love this post you bring up some very good points between the two. reading your post made me ask myself which am I.

melissa said...

This is very interesting LaVonya. I have yet to explore the contents. But somehow I am beginning to understand the dysfunctional patterns of the woman I'm assisting. Great post...I was left hanging, but that means I have to continue reading the book...;).

Thanks for this post:)

Sonia Rumzi said...

I love your writing LaYonya. Very interesting indeed. It would be good for all of us to know which one we are. :)

Karen Wasylowski said...

Very good blog - new follower. We are on the Blog-a-licious tour together.

sulekkha said...

Interesting post lavonya, makes one think and reflect...

Rimly said...

Someone had once told me that i could make men dance around my little finger but I could never do that. I would invariably get emotionally involved. I dont think I could ever be that but yes there are those that are and they seem to keep their men for good.

Veronica Lee said...

Hi! Stopping by from MBC. Great blog!
Have a nice day!

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